Speak of self-esteem is to speak of the beliefs that have on us same, of what perceive about our own capacities, skills or thoughts. We same are the main engine of our psychological and emotional welfare by what have a high positive self-esteem will be ours main source of energy to the personal growth.
What is the self-esteem?
We can define the self-esteem like the assessment that a person effects of himself same in function of his own description and involves a complex affective representation and cambiante that can reflect in a degree of own satisfaction.
The people with a high self-esteem show well achieve same and consider stronger of face to face the challenges of the life. However, the people with a low self-esteem are used to to tend to perceive the reality and like this same of form distorted with the consistent repercussion on his own personal acceptance and his autoeficacia perceived.
Difference between self-esteem and egocentrism.
No for having a high self-esteem a person is egocentric. The egocentrism bases in the feeling of superiority and exclusivity on the other. The self-esteem represents more a harmonic state personnel, of coherence, that allows to grow, progress and learn of the world that surrounds us and of us same.
Low self-esteem and cognitive distortions.
One of the main causes of a low self-esteem is the related with the distortions of the thought, or cognitive distortions. When we make visions unfit on us same or the world that surrounds us produces an erroneous processing of the information that carries us to misunderstand the reality. Some of the irrational interpretations more common are what follows and can learn more on them in east another article: The 17 cognitive distortions more frequent:
- Arbitrary inference.
- Dichotomous thought or polarised.
- Disqualification of the positive.
- Emotional reasoning.
- Construction of the gone in base to external opinions.
- Read the mind.
- Selective abstraction.
- It would owe “them”.
Councils to increase the self-esteem.
The best form to learn the tools to improve the self-esteem is by means of the professional help. If you seat that your self-esteem is weakened and affects you to your daily life attends to professional skilled psychologists in emotions and warn the pathological self-criticism.
And no only when it already is weakened, but before. It takes care your mind. To the equal that take care other more physical appearances of our person is convenient to keep our emotional levels in healthy states by what attend to courses of self-esteem will be your elder baza to warn the negative emotional states and improve the personal performance in all the facets of the life. Seat you more alive and better with you same, the self-esteem also works .
Basic rules to increase the self-esteem.
Fortalezar Ours self-esteem is possible, but this involves to achieve a series of fundamental aims, as what follows:
- Detect the automatic negative thoughts and put them brake.
- Convert the negative in positive.
- Not generalising.
- Centre in the positive.
- Be conscious of the attainments and enjoy them.
- It did not compare with the other.
- Learn to differentiate the behaviours of the others people. What does in a moment is not the definition of the person.
- Give permission to make a mistake . Learn of the errors.
- Change would owe “them” by would like “me to them”.
- Accept the limits.
- Accept the capacities.
- Encourage for improving.
Process of improvement of the self-esteem.
As we already said the self-esteem can work and for this is convenient that attend to workshops of professional psychologists that will guide you in the process of learning for the improvement of the self-esteem. Basically, the process for the improvement would be the following:
- Detect the automatic thoughts. The same that we darse of our more rational and positive thoughts, have to practise for to attend to the more irrational and negative thoughts. It is a task complicated and that demands a high load of emotional honesty to be able to detect precozmente the thoughts intrusivos.
- Identify the underlying cognitive distortion. We can take like reference the distortions of the most usual thought related further up to know which cognitive error have committed in each moment. Put him name to our distortions will help us in the process of improvement. It treats to make a correct pathological self-criticism.
- Look for evidences. That is to say, we have to treat to check the validity of our automatic thoughts. Have proofs that what are thinking is true? Can show it? With these simple questions us replantearemos if our thought bases in objective proofs or are only suppositions.
- Modify the irrational thought. To put him end to a problem, have to know the error that it ocasiona to be able to it solve. From this moment will be able to replantear our ideas of way more constructive and change what before was a negative thought by one positive that allow us keep growing personally.
- Practise the identification of emotions and thought. The best form to strengthen our self-esteem is to practise these steps to warn recaer in situations of thoughts intrusivos. Know to one same is the base of the cerebral gymnastics.
Anybody has said that it was easy to improve our self-esteem, but is possible. It attends to a professional if you are not able to do it by you same. The psychologists do not bite. And you, that do by your personal self-esteem?